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Road Rage In Reverse. An Act of Kindness.

This is a personal story.

Yesterday I was tooling down the 405 freeway in Southern California when suddenly I heard a loud pop which I assumed belong to another vehicle. I was in the center lane of a very crowded freeway and suddenly realized that the bang was coming from MY car. A blowout! Behind me was a huge semi 16 wheeler who was not sympathetic to my plight. His behavior telegraphed to me that he just wanted me to get out of his way so he would not have to slow down.

As I tried to limp to the right shoulder, the flop flop flop of a blown tire turned into a metal- against- the- pavement sound. I was down to my rim trying make it to the very narrow shoulder while traffic kept sailing past on my left side at about 80 miles an hour. Finally on the shoulder, I remembered the warnings not get out of the car this situation, so I called 911 hoping that a patrol car would help me get off the freeway somehow so I could start repairs on my tire.

In the meantime, I looked in my rear view mirror and saw a pony-tailed man approaching in a hugely wide pick up truck. He said that he had witnessed the whole thing, had circled around and had come back to help. Would I mind if he changed the tire for me? Yea, like I am picky about whom I allow to change my tires when I’m incapacitated on a shoulder off the 405 freeway! So, change it he did, risking his life by exposing his backside to streaming fast-moving traffic as worked on the blown tire and rim which was exposed to the freeway.

When finished, I offered to pay him, but he would not accept any money. He said his name was John (“I am a Greek”) and he would accept a hug as payment. So, that sounded like a fair exchange to me. What a strange site it must have been to other drivers to see an older silver-haired man (me) hugging a middle-aged Greek guy with a pony tail on the shoulder of the freeway! And what a contrast to seeing people yelling at each other, cutting each other off, cussing at fellow drivers, or giving each other the one finger salute.

Thank you, John for reaffirming my faith in the inherent goodness of human beings. Hope soon I will share more driving advice and positive driving experience.

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New Beginnings – Dedicated to Cjon Damitri Patterson

At the brink of every New Year we make promises to ourselves and to the ones we love to change. Often we’ve made the same promises every year for the last decade and find ourselves repeating the same negative habits, hurting ourselves and the people we care about.

In some circles the number 8 is thought to represent new beginnings and 2008 is touted as the year of new beginnings.

The thought is hopeful but can people really change?

The answer is yes people can change. I can’t afford to think otherwise. Why because there is so much about me that needs improvement.

To tell you the truth anger management has never been a real problem for me. I did not say I’ve never been angry. I fall under the category of angry people who hold their emotions in and it eats them alive from the inside out. Come to think of it, I guess that is a problem but it’s not the biggest problem I face.

A dear friend of mine passed this weekend. We shared a similar struggle.

He was full of life, talented and hopeful for a new beginning. I guess he got it. He got his new beginning.

In a way I envy him. My new beginning will not come so easy. It will take work and discipline. It will take change.

Can people really change? Yes people can change. I can’t afford to think otherwise.

Dedicated to Cjon Damitri Patterson: The composer of the musical theme for Angry in L.A.

Cjon your spirit and music will live on.

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