How Self-Talk Changes Moods

A famous psychologist, Dr. Albert Ellis changed the face of psychology on the 60’s and 70’s by arguing that it is our self-talk  or thinking patterns that determine how will respond to events in our world and what we will feel about them. He went on to explain that this also explains why person “A”…

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In close relationships, most of the time being loved, being respected or being personally happy is more important than being…

We all LIKE being right, but some people HAVE to be right as a matter of power and control over others. These people are very rigid in their thinking patterns because they don’t allow that others may have equally valid opinions or ways of doing things.  While it IS true that sometimes we indeed have…

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I need to develop more patience and tolerance toward some people or situations – Anger Self Talk 6

“As soon as you concern yourself with the “good” and “bad” of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you”……Morihei Ueshiba We live in a complex world with over 6 billion other people, many of whom see things, value things…

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I am partly responsible for how people treat me – Anger Self Talk 5

Has it occurred to you that your attitudes, appearance, demeanor, and behaviors are constantly teaching others how you are willing to be treated? It’s like we are beaming signals to other people of which we may or may not be aware.  Yet, we sometimes are astounded when people then treat us in ways consistent with…

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Nobody is perfect. I must remember that even good intentioned and competent people make mistakes – Anger Self-Talk 4

“Iron is full of impurities that weaken it; through forging it becomes steel and is transformed into a razor-sharp sword. Human beings develop in the same fashion” – Morihei Ueshiba   To reduce anger, remind yourself that most of us are works in progress and, as such, are imperfect. We all have good days and and…

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Things don’t always have to go my way – Self Talk Part 2

Some days you are  the pigeon; other days you are the statue. When people read this “self-talk,” in anger management class, there is always immediate chuckling indicating self-awareness of how often we convince ourselves just the opposite – that things should go our way because after all, we are masters of the universe and legends in…

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How To Talk To Yourself When Angry-Part 1

As you go through your daily life, what kinds of things irritate or anger you? If you are like most people, the list is porbably quite long and may vary in length depending on the day and your mood at the time. Our anger management participants regularly tell us they experience workplace anger, desk rage,…

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