Some days you areÂ the pigeon; other days you are the statue.
When people read this “self-talk,” in anger managementÂ class, there is always immediate chuckling indicating self-awareness of how often we convince ourselves just the opposite – that things should go our way because after all, we are masters of the universe and legends in our own minds.
The mature person recognizes that things probably unfold in the world pretty much as they are supposed to – even if events don’t necessarily follow our personal plans, wishes, needs or wants. To what extent do we control our personal world? Philosophers have been dabating this issue for thousands of years without agreement; until they figure it out, you can manage your anger by realistically telling yourself that sometimes things will go your way, and other times they won’t – no matter how hard you try.