AngerCoach Show – Episode #14 – How to Tank Your Relationship: part 3

In this months episode we provide couples with suggestions on how to tank your relationship, an exciting new series offered by Dr. Tony Fiore. In part 3, we highlight a habit that can start eager couples down that path to divorce: Never ask your partner to meet you half way on an issue of disagreement….

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AngerCoach Show – Episode #13 – How to Tank Your Relationship: part 2

In this months episode we provide couples with suggestions on how to tank your relationship, an exciting new series offered by Dr. Tony Fiore. In part 2, we highlight communication styles that can start eager couples down that path to divorce. The way you choose to handle arguments can sway your relationship towards or away…

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Is Marriage like a Rorschach Test?

Have you ever noticed that you and your partner sometimes see things very differently? The very same things. Reminds me of the classic Woody Allen film “Annie Hall” with Woody himself (“Alvy Singer”) and Diane Keaton (“Annie Hall”), in which we see a split screen with both of them talking to their separate therapists about…

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AngerCoach Show – Episode #12 – How to Tank Your Relationship: part 1

In this months episode we provide couples with suggestions on how to tank your relationship, an exciting new series offered by Dr. Tony Fiore. In part 1, we highlight three ways couples often start down that path to divorce. This podcast centers around a typical argument that couples often have and how what you say…

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How To Tank Your Relationship – Lesson 3

In our latest series of blogs, we have been trying to teach you what research tells us as to how to tank a relationship, if you really want to. Marriage researchers now know with  a fairly high degree if accuracy (about 91% ) which habits and traits predict marital success and which will probably destroy…

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Century Anger Management Re-Approved In California

Century Anger Management (The Training and Education Site for The Anger Coach and AJ Novick Group) are re-approved for the 6th year in a row by the California State Board of Corrections (a.k.a. Corrections Standard Authority) for the training of probation, parole and correctional officers.  Their contact information can be found on the Board of…

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Anger Management Certification Training Date Announced

Century Anger Management, the training company of The Anger Coach and AJ Novick Group, announces the first of its “live” certification trainings in 2010 in Orange, CA. This training, to be held on Friday, February 12,  will satisfy 8 of the required 40-hour certification program. The remaining 32 hours is done online in our unique…

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Participate in Coping With Rage Documentary by Discovery Channel

Would you like to be in a documentary? I was contacted recently by Discovery channel to find someone interested in being part of a documentary called “Coping with Rage. According to the producer: ” In our documentary, we will meet individuals whose anger is impairing their functioning and explore how it affects them, their families,…

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AngerCoach Show Episode#8 The Positive Emotions

This months episode discusses the positive emotions and what we can do to acquire, and put into practice nine different emotions that will help reduce stress and anger. Please note: This anger program and these anger tips are not meant to substitute for professional diagnosis, treatment or advice. If you have intense, serious or chronic…

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How Q-Tip can Help With Anger

One of the really nice “side benefits” of teaching up to three anger classes per week is that of learning from my students who are struggling with their anger control. One such incidence took place this Tuesday night in our weekly class in Orange, California at which time we were learning Tool #4 of anger…

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AngerCoach Show#7 – Does Happiness Counter-Balance Anger?

This months episode handles the question: “Does Happiness Counter-Balance Anger? The answer might surprise you. Research into the field of happiness suggests that it is possible for people to counter-balance negative emotions with positive ones. In this podcast we explain how easy it is to put this into practice. Please note: This anger program and…

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Stimulate positive emotions to resolve conflicts

Mental health professionals have discovered an important principal that should be used when attempting to resolve conflicts or settle disputes with others. Simply put, conflicts can resolved more successfully when reason and emotion are taken into account. To try to solve an emotional issue with logic alone is often very ineffective and frustrating.  We are…

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Treat spouse as you would a friend

As an experienced marriage therapist as well as anger management trainer, I am often amazed at how badly people in relationship treat each other in comparison to how they treat their co-workers or same-sex friends. Things sometimes get to the point of contempt, which is a major predictor of divorce, according to recent research the…

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Poor Anger Control is Bad For Society

Extreme conflict, violence, and intolerance are all anger-based social issues that greatly affect marriages, families, children, the workplace, and entire cultures. Take the fact that it is estimated that between 2.3 million and 10 million children are exposed to intimate partner violence (parents fighting) each year in the United States alone. Or the fact that…

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CAM Training ReCertified for 2008-2009

Century Anger Management, the training organization for the Anger Coach and AJ Novick Group has been recertified by the California Standards Training for Corrections Programs for the year 2008-2009. This means that our training program again meets the training requirements as set forth by the Corrections Standards Authority for California Counties participating in the Standards…

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I cannot control people who do not wish to be controlled – Self Talk Part 3

Much anger is the world is generated by people trying to control or change other people who do not wish to be controlled or changed. Rather than thinking in terms of “control,” think instead of other methods of changing and influencing others such as: persuading, educating, rewarding, enticing, compromising, being positive role model, advising, urging…

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How To Talk To Yourself When Angry-Part 1

As you go through your daily life, what kinds of things irritate or anger you? If you are like most people, the list is porbably quite long and may vary in length depending on the day and your mood at the time. Our anger management participants regularly tell us they experience workplace anger, desk rage,…

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Five tips to deal with holiday anger and stress

The holidays often bring family members together who maybe haven’t seen much of each other throughout the year. Old resentments and grievances can often emerge, sometimes with strained or even disasterous consequences. Many families find themselves time-stressed with holday preparations and activities which lower coping ability even further. The following five tips have been found…

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The Real Art of Peace

To continue our series on the union of anger management and principals of martial arts training, Morihei Ueshiba, founder of Aikido, says……”The way of the warrior, the Art of Politics, is to stop trouble before it starts. It consists in defeating your adversaries spiritually by making them realize the folly of their actions. The Way…

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Quick Anger Tip #27 – Avoid Communicating with Contempt

Contempt is a communication style of regarding someone or something as inferior or less-than.  In effect, we look down on them. Even worse, sometimes it means treating others with scorn as if we regard them as worthless. When we are treated with contempt by others we feel despised, dishonored, or disgraced. In marriage or relationships,…

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Quick Anger Tip # 26- Try Not To Stonewall

Stonewalling is a term used by some marital researchers to describe how partners in a relationship emotionally shut-down when upset, angry or hurt by their spouse. If done excessively, it is a predictor of divorce or relationship breakup. Stonewalling is often thought to occur more frequently among men than women, but sometimes women do it…

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